How To Get A GirlFriend?

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The stark reality though is that you presently dont have a girlfriend. So how to get a girlfriend? Not only any girlfriend mind you. Your girlfriend ought to be a girl who ..

you are in love with
you find really pretty or hot as your liking may be
you think would be fun to have in your life

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Accepting The Reality

Its important for you to face the reality first before taking any action to change it. Your life situation is presently lacking a girlfriend. The reasons could be several.

You are an introvert and dont approach girls for a casaul talk
You are a human of high IQ (euphemism for geek) and hence girls keep away from you
You have a complex about your facial looks (a common reason among guys)
You have a complex about your physique
You think you are not well settled in life (financially)
You are scared of girls (especially their high pitch laughter)
You are scared of failures or rejection (nobody likes a slap on the cheek)
You are not sure if girls would like you as a person
You dont think you have any cool attributes about you

Well the list goes on. Every guy who is living without a girlfriend and seeking one would have an excuse or a solid reasoning for their present condition. Some guys just brush it off stating "girls are a pain". Its easy to avoid a problem. Not having a girlfriend is a problem and you know it. Take a moment to think about all your beliefs which are stopping you from getting a girlfriend. Some of us never take the time to do a little introspection. Go ahead and do it now.

How to become a boyfriend material?

Here is a modular bootcamp to become a boyfriend material

Develop a female attraction body language:

The factor of attraction has more to do which you body language than your communication skills. You dont need to talk to generate attraction in a girl. Read more about how to attract girls through body language.

Develop the art of flirting:

Your body language will attract the girls but you need to take it further. You will need to initiate flirting. This is an important step. It involves changing a few aspects of your normal behavior. Read about how to flirt with girls

Develop your kino skills or the art of touching:

This is an important step towards entering the boyfriend domain. Girls are very sensitive to touch. You need to develop the art of playful touching and sensual touching to get the girls to respond to your signals. Learn about this powerful technique, how to touch a girl

Develop the alpha attitude:

Once the girl gets interested in you she will start observing you more closely. She will start testing you. This is an exciting phase, more because you now know that she is interested. You need to come across as an alpha male to get her to fall in love with you. Learn about how to develop the instincts of an alpha male, how to be an alpha male

Initiating the first kiss:

Make no mistake about it, this is the precursor to sex. The first kiss is vital. Girls have a sixth sense about how confident a guy is based on the way he kisses. It's usually a natural thing, but a few tips can never hurt. Read about,how to initiate the first kiss

Proposing to your girl:

How do you if your girl is your girlfriend yet? Unless there is a verbal committment you cant really be sure. Most guys are scared to propose to a girl, I am not talking about marry here. You need to let her know that you love her and know what she feels about you. Living in a misunderstanding will end up being painful for you later. Read about how to propose a girl

Dealing with the consequences

If you followed the bootcamp to the word I am sure you would have had success with girls. I am assuming that you have already gone from being a loner to becoming a foolproof boyfriend material. The rest of the journey is simple. Make sure you dont get too complacent along the way, remember the thumb rule "Girls will test". The best way to deal with these situations in life is to be relaxed. From here on I will be putting on a few miscellaneous articles relating to certain specific problems you might face in your relationship. Remember, you are done with the hard part. It's a cruise from here on

How To Attract Girls?

You need to get noticed to attract girls. You need to develop a female magnet body language. Perfecting this art can do wonders no only from the aspect of getting a girlfriend but also becoming a seduction expert. It's easy to develop this body langauge. You need to add a few traits and delete a few traits. You need to delete the traits which generate a negative body langauge. You would then need to consciously add a few seduction body langugage traits. A combination of these would turn your body language in a manner which sends out seduction signals to the girls around you. Thats when they get attracted. You will notice the "under the eye" glances coming from the girls around you and some might blatantly ogle at you. You will sense female attraction around you. These are the good things to come when you finish perfecting this art.

Removing the negative body language

Each one of us has certain quirks or unconscious habits relating to our body language. These habits have been inculcated without our conscious knowledge and hence we are not even aware of it. Some of these habits are so destructive to our overall personality that it is best to get rid of them. It will take a conscious effort on your part to accomplish this. It might take a week or more to get a habit replaced. Be patient and keep practicing consciously. Here is a list of negative body language traits, try to figure out which of these behaviors is present in you.

The drooping shoulders walk

The signal which this body language sends out is that you are sluggish. It generates a perception of laziness and lethargy. Though you may not even feel lazy or sluggish inside, the body langauge which you wear makes people percieve that of you. The right body language would be to lift your shoulder so that your arms are parallel to each other, your chesh is slightly bloated up and it feels like your head is at a 90 degree to your shoulders. This is a killer body laugauge and it oozes of confidence. It will take time to get this practiced so that it because a habit with you. A week of conscious practice will get you the results.

The jerky and hasty movements

If you have a hasty walk, people percieve you to be an impatient and fidgety person. Some people have a jerky movement, where there body jerks around while walking. This again sends out signals of weirdness or ecentricity. I am sure this body langauge is very natural to you but the fact is that it sends out negative signals. It is important to replace it with a seduction body language of "walking in the pool". Just imagine that you are wading through water in your pool. The movement is slow and gracious. There is no sense of urgency but a calm composure which seems to say that time is in your control. Have you seen the way Brad Pitt or George Clooney walk? Its very relaxed, as if they are wading through water. There are no jerky or hasty movements. I agree that this is a difficult habit to develop but the returns are so rich that its worth the effort. You will amazed at the way people percieve you once you start walking this way.

The twitching eye movement

Your eyes play a very important role in the art of seduction. If you look at guys who are extremely successful with girls, you will notice that they have a calm gaze, their eyes wouldnt twitch at all. If you are in the habit of twitching your eyes while talking, closing and opening you eyes in hasty movements, making quick eye movements as if you are in danger all the time, then its time to give it your conscious attention and change it. Relax your eye muscles. You can even let your eye lids droop slightly. Practice keeping a steady stare without much movement. Avoid looking around you continously, try to focus on just what is ahead of you. When you relax your eyes you will be conscious of their movement and this will stop the twitching habit. Takes practice, but I cannot emphasize the importance of developing this particular body language enough. It is vital that you get this habit perfected.

Playing with your hands
If you are in the habit of playing with your hands while sitting idle, talking, walking or standing then you are send signals or nervousness. Thats how people percieve it. This is a very common habit but its very detrimental to your body language. Avoid it like plague. Be conscious of your hand movements, the best way to accomplish is this is to relax your fingers. Leave your limp whenever you are sitting idly or talking. While standing you can either keep your hands in your pocket or better yet twidle your thumbs into your belt loops but the best thing to do is to leave your hands limp while standing, this is a sign of extreme confidence.

Hurried articulation
If you talk fast while animating your speech with frantic actions with your hands and eyes then you are sending out signals of insecurity, impatience and defensiveness. People percieve you as some who feels the need to impress due to his insecurity in himself. If you observe your facial movements, when you talk fast with facial animation, it seems very contorted as you are struggling. The thumb rule is to relax. Relax you mouth while talking, its a powerful exercise and sends out signals of intense confidence. Relax your face and ensure that there is no animation like bulging eyes, flared up nose or anything of that sort. Let you mouth do the talking, dont involve your hands. When a speaker talks without using his hand, to animate his points, he presents a picture of calm confidence without the need to defend or impress. A very powerful communication technique and a strong alpha body language.

Scratching your face or hair
Most people unconsciously scratch their face or hair while standing, sitting or talking. People around you will percieve it as restlessness. It is very detrimental to your personality. It is also very distracting to the other person when you scratch your face or hair while talking. Some people play with nose, some with their ears, some rub their neck, some scratch their hair, some play with their lower lip or chin, all of these are unconscious behavior and convey a form of restlessness or unease. Be relaxed and leave your hands limp. You dont need to play with anything just keep your attention focus on yourself. While listening just pay attention to what is being said while keeping a relaxed pose. There is no need to think when the other person is talking, just focus your attention. You will realize that conscious behavior is always relaxed, unconscious behavior is restless. Be more conscious of your body and mind, this will help you relax

Adding on seduction body langauge

Now that you have removed the negative traits of your body language and replaced them with positive ones, you are well on your way to being perceived as a relaxed and confident person. Its takes practice to replace old habits, give yourself atleast a week of conscious practice by then most of the traits would get ingrained. This is the foundation. Now we add the seduction body language traits to your positive body language to give you the ultimate girl magnet body language. A confident body language in itself is attractive to girls, add to it the seduction body language traits and you will get girls to feel a huge attraction towards you.

The flirty smile

This is a very subtle smile, there is nothing overtly flirty about it but it conveys huge signals of interest. Some guys put on a fake flirtly smile which overtly stinks of coming on that girls are immediately repulsed by it. They sense danger. Dont make that mistake ever. The smile I am talking about is the one which conveys friendliness but with a huge amount of seduction energy. Its an art actually, it takes confidence to carry it through so make sure you have perfected all the points discussed in "removing negative traits" before persuing this. George clooney and Brad pitt qualify agains as the ones with the perfect flirty smile. The slightly lopside, warm, seduction smile. It never conveys a neediness or overt flirting, so the girls feel secure and usually they smile back. Thats the proof that you have had success with perfecting your smile. You will have to try it out several times, you might get a cold response several times but keep working till you have perfected it. Once you have perfected it the cold responses, from the girls, will reduce and the smiles will increases. If you get a girl to smile back at you its a great first step. You can go home and party because all the practice has finally paid off. Remember not to smile too much, its usually percieved as a sign of insecurity.

The seduction gaze

The perfect backdrop to your flirty smile should be the seduction gaze. I recommend you watch a few George Clooney movies to understand what I am talking about. The seduction gaze is the one of warmth while not being overtly friendly. When you look at a girl try not to avert your glance immediately when she looks at you. It might take practice but learn to look at her, lock eyes with her and smile. The is always a danger of coming off as a weirdo if you are caught staring at a girl for long. Everything in seduction body language is subtle. You need to get it just right, overdo it and you are in a mess. The thumb rule is "less is more". Glance, keep an eye contact, smile and then look away as if you dont care. Never come off as a needy person. At times you just need to give her the seduction gaze without the smile depending on the situation, its a extremely strong signal of your sexual interest in her. Dont forget to watch George Clooney and Brad Pitt movies to understand the way these guys carry off the subtle seduction gaze and the flirty smile. Watch and learn, practice in front of a mirror and start applying it. It takes practice, you cant perfect it in a day. Given a couple of weeks you will be well on your way to be comfortable with your seduction gaze. Always start with the seduction gaze, if the girl responds by gazing at you then follow it up with the flirty smile.

Art of slow movement
There is something extremely attractive about slow movements. It conveys a calm and sensual state. Think about it as if you were playing a movie in slow motion, there is something exciting about the movements. Each movement seems to have a meaning. That's how it is in real life also. When your movements are slow you come across as someone with a lot time, as if you are controlling time. A huge sign of confidence and sexuality. Next time someone calls your name dont turn back in a jerky movement. Relax, take your time, slowly turn back. This shows that you engrossed in your life and dont feel the need to impress other by giving your attention immediately when ever its seeked. Walk slow, talk slow and move slow. Its extremely sensual and girls go crazy about a guy who's body language depicts this.

Practice and practice more

All your habits are unconscious and have developed through years of unconscious use. To replace a habit is easy, you just need to become conscious about your unconscious behavior. Consciously change your habits and perfect the art of seduction body langauge. When you display such a body langauge you will immediately see girls taking notice of you, some will give you a shy glance, some will stare at your overtly, some will smile at you and I tell you this, its very sexual all of it.

Get your timing right

Before you start flirting with a girl get your timing right. First you give her a seduction gaze and then a flirty smile, make sure you have read how to attract girls through body language before continuing. When a girl responds to your seduction gaze and flirty smile by smiling back in a slightly flirtatious manner, then you know you are on. Take your time and walk towards her casually, dont stare at her continuously while walking because thats wierd. Be relaxed, dont ever come off as needy. Always remember that each girl is just a practice initially, there are lot of girls around. One failure does not mean anything, but one succes would prove that you are getting your art perfected. So let there be no pressure. Get by her side in a very inconspicous manner, there should be nothing overt about your intentions. Always remember the golden thumb rule "be subtle and be relaxed".

Initiating converstation

Depending on the situation or place you are in, what you say to initiate conversation may vary but dont ever use the cocky pickup lines. Girls love helping out. Use it to your advantage. For example, if you are in a crowded office party, go by her side and say something like "I feel kinda out of place here", the way you say it is important, speak as if you are talking to yourself or thinking out aloud and always talk in a slow pitch. Most girls would respond positively with some kinda curiousity, the usual response would be a "I didnt get you". Now is the time to look into her eyes (remember the seduction gaze) give her a flirty smile and tell her "the party is too crowded, I think I am gonna leave". Most girls would try to help out with things like, "hey why dont you try out this drink" or "why are you feeling this way, try to enjoy come on". The rest is easy. You will have her company for the party because she will try her best to ensure that she plays a role in making you comfortable. The helping mentality is ingrained in girls, its just that most guys come off as insincere or overtly flirty and hence the girls get into their defensive mode.If you are in a lab class with her, you can say something like "this lab is confusing". Most girls will try to help out with their knowledge, girls love getting acknowledged for their mental prowess. By now you would have gotten the lay of things. Address her helping mentality and the rest is easy. Keep the seduction body language going all the time, dont get complacent about your initial success.

Getting personal

Dont be afraid of getting personal almost immediately after you have the initial converstation going. You can start with something which shows a little admiration like "you do know your labs well" (if you are in a lab class) or "you are good at socialising" (if you are at party) or "you got melody in your voice" (if you are in some singing class). Keep the admiration real and dont be too flowery about it, saying something like "wow you got such a beautifully melodious voice" can be a total turn off. If you put you admiration across well then you will see an immediate closeness from her part, she will try to be modest of course but you can sense that she felt really good about the fact that you acknowledged something about her. Everyone loves being acknowledged, especially girls. Remember the thumb rule of flirty converstation "always keep things real, no flowery stuff".

Talk in small sentences

Seduction experts are aware of this secret. The less you talk the more you convey about yourself. Remember that your body language is the main attraction factor. Your tone should display a sense of relaxation. There should be no flurry of words, just a relaxed slow delivery. Keep the sentences short so that you dont fluster while talking. Remember to breath while talking, pause while you breath. The act of pausing while you talk generates a lot of attraction, it shows that you are completely at ease. Girls immediately tend to get close to a guy who is so relaxed because there is something intensely protective and secure about such a guy. And remember not to ever get flowery with adjectives, keep it simple. Saying something like "you are looking gorgeously stunning in that green dress you are wearing" is too flowery and its a turn off, instead just say something like "you look good in green". Most seduction manuals go really wrong in this aspect, they ask a guy to be cocky and sarcastic while talking but in real life its a turn off for any normal girl. No girl likes being taken a dig at (during the initial converstations), girls love a guy who talks in a calm and mature tone. Dont get sarcastic and dont try to act funny, it shows that you are a joker nothing else and she will lose her respect for you immediately. For a girl, attraction and respect go hand in hand, she will feel no attraction for a guy she can't respect.

Dont initiate a date

Some guys get carried away at the success they had with the initial conversation and end up asking the girl out for a coffee or lunch. Dont do that, it would mostly be a no from her side and things might get uncomfortable. Remember that you need to make her feel completely comfortable. You can ask her where she lives, you can ask her about where she works or stuff like that, if a girl is comfortable in your company she wouldnt mind revealing personal information. Make sure you ask all this very casually, it should not come off as an inquiry that might get her wary. Say something like "so you live nearby" (almost like statement rather than a question) or "travelling is getting tough for me" (this will get her to talk about her mode of transportation). Be subtle, never be too obvious. You can get her number or chat id (its popular nowadays) on the pretext catching up, for example you can say something like "whats your number, i'd like to catch with you sometime". Be relaxed and confident in this approach, no sly smile, no signs of discomfort. Anything which gets alarms ringing in head is bad for you, she should feel that she is in no danger by giving you her number. A chesire cat smile while asking for her number will immediately creep her and she will have second thoughts about it (she might just give you a wrong number). Also remember to avoid the "Can I have .." approach. Never say something like "can i have your number?", its a got a needy pleading tone to it. Just ask for it "whats your number". Girls like guys who are bold enough to ask for what they want, the best thing is they usually give it. Girls have a giving mentality, you just need to approach her right.

What if she initiates a date?

Some girls are very friendly even during the initial conversation phase. She might ask you out for a coffee by saying something sweet like "hey wanna join me for a coffee?". Be genuine, if you feel like going out with her and having a coffee then just go for it by saying something like "yeah sure" (be bland, dont show your excitement and dont get flowery) on the other hand if you dont feel like it then just say "no, some other time". By the way, congrats! if she initiates a date like this it means that you have really perfected the art of using your body language and flirting.

Exit with a flair

When its time to leave dont get too verbose. Dont say stuff like "fine, i will call you then, take care now, goodbye", thats not a good exit at all for a guy because its common and it will not generate any attraction in her. Just say something blunt and casual like you really dont care about leaving her company, something like "see you around" (in a bland tone without excitement) is perfect. Remember that less is more. If she says something like, "call me sometime" or "lets hope we bump into each other again" it's great, just give her a smile and move on. Dont ever say something like "Oh I would also love to bump into you again" or "it was great talking to you, we should do it again sometime", thats a huge turn off. Keep her guessing about if you really liked spending time with her. Be subtle guys, thats the secret of seduction.

How To Touch A Girl

During the intial part of the relationship, while you are still flirting with the girl, its important to start touching. Not only does it help you feel good, but if done right it can arouse a lot of attraction her to the extent of charging her with sexual desire. Its important to understand that going overboard with touching during this phase of the relationship can be detrimental. Remember the thumb rule "less is more". Be subtle and be patient, there are rich dividends to be reaped later. Now is the time for the "passing touch". Girls are intensely aware of the skin to skin feel and they love to be touched. Guys on the other hand love touching, its usual for guys to feel attracted to the soft areas on the girl's body (they are plenty at that, not just the two areas you are thinking about). Whenever a guy sees a pretty girl its common for him to imagine her naked, most of the time he would think about how it would feel to touch her, especially her breasts and butt. This initiates a craving inside for him to have sex with that girl. This entire act of imagination is so unconscious that many guys, who are not very comfortable with their sexuality, actually feel embarassed about thinking that way, especially if they are married or committed. You need to remember that your mind is wired for sex, it is a very biological thing and hence is unconsciously triggered. Its natural and of course and its fun. This need or craving can interfere and lead to disasterous consequences if you lose self control, you risk coming across as a needy weirdo. Girls love sex as much as guys do, even more, but the approach has to be right else it spoils everything.

The Passing Touch

During the initial part of the flirting process, even as soon as the second time you meet up, you can start with the process of touching very subtlely. The passing touch references to touching her almost imperceptibly, a touch which lasts only for a second. She will feel it, either consciously or unconsciously, so dont worry it will have its effect. The best areas to touch initially would be her hands and shoulders. Girls take a lot of care to ensure that their hands look good, have you noticed? There is a lot of pain endured in waxing their hands and arms to keep it looking sexy. Initially you should touch her without conscious intention, you need to act as if you didnot touch her consciously. For example, when you are standing and talking with her just touch her upper arm slightly as if you are trying to look beyond her on the floor. When she looks back just say something like "i think i saw a rat pass by or something", that will have her squeeling and coming close to you. I am sure you can come up with a lot of excuse to touch her, every guy's mind is great at this. Just ensure that the touch does not last for more than a second. Touching her skin is more effective than touching her clothes of course.

Tips for touching, for the newbie

If you are new to the game its natural to feel very conscious while touching the girl. She might even sense that and feel a "wierdo" alarm going up in her head. Its important to do this in a subtle manner. Unconscious touching is always ok, remember that. So get started with pulling off "unconscious touching" while being very conscious. I will tell you how. Dont be intimated at the prospect of touching her, no matter how much in awe you are of her. Thats a mistake to start with though, dont be in awe of her, just think of her as another girl. Know that there are plenty to choose from if this does not work out. Keep it cool and keep it relaxed. Be subtle and everything will look natural. Here are a few touching tips, all these touches should be a "passing touch" (not more than a second)

Touch her shoulder from behind whenever you approach her
Touch her clothing while remarking on how nice the fabric feels, say something like "nice dress" and touch it. The upper arm would be the best place for this act
Ask her for a high five in a casual manner. This works wonders, because now she will have to touch you consciously.It should be a bland "give me five", no flowery expressions allowed on your part else you might end up in the "friends zone" with her.

If you have big hands you can try this ruse. Tell her how small her hands look, ask her to place it on your hand to compare the sizes. Say something like "you got small hands, just see how small they are keep it on my hand". Any girl would follow up on it. Once she places her hand on yours, just laugh and leave it at that. Dont prolong the touch for more than two seconds. If done right this is highly sexual.

While the crossing road or in a crowded mall, you can extend your arm for her to hold. It should look like a very unconscious gesture on your part, it should show that as a guy you are worried about her safety. If she holds your arm or hand, well you have it made my brother. If she doesnt there is no sweat because you can always pretend that it was unconscious on your part and go about it casually. Dont ever look sheepish if your attempt fails, always keep a straight face as if you are not aware of what happened. You get the lay of it right?

You can even dare to touch her waist, the area slightly above her butt, on the pertext on guiding her through a crowded mall or a pub. It works as long as you do it very subtely. She can feel it ofcourse, dont apply any pressure, just a feather touch.

The whisper technique is much abused, but it looks better on girls than on guys. So if you want you can try it but be cautious it might get you in an awkward position if done wrong. The best tip while doing this is to avoid getting too close to her ear, just lean towards her shoulder and whisper something pretty bland like "this class sucks".

The reading her palm technique is very common and known to most girls. Almost every guy on the block has tried it. So if you want to stand apart dont try it. Of course its your wish, if you are genuinely good at reading palms you can give it a try. Dont blame me if she gives you a wry "yeah i know this trick" look.

Given a situation just use your ingenuity to come up with excuses to touch her. While touching, less is more remember that though. Each touch has the capacity to arose attraction in her, mostly physical attraction. You can even sense the sexual tension in her eyes attimes, when you get it just right. Just make sure the touching feels as if it was unconscious on your part, this will have her more attracted.

She will get close

If you are playing your cards right, she will feel sexually attracted to you. All girls have the tendency to lean towards guys they find attractive. On some pertext or the other she will try to come close to you, may be with an excuse of showing you something or telling you something secretive. She might even whisper in your ears especially with that soft sensual voice. Thats right brother, things are heating up. When she does all this make sure you keep a straight face and look disinterested for the most part. Any excitement on your part can be a turn off. Remember the golden rule "Girls love guys who seem to care for nothing", one of the ultimate secrets of the seduction gurus. Be relaxed and dont get carried away, one mistake can reduce attraction and you dont want that to happen. Each bit of attraction built leads to a high sexual charge inside her to the point where she is craving for your physical closeness. If you see her touching you a lot for one reason or the other then you know that she is feeling the heat. Good work my man.

Taking it to the next level

Remember that less is more initially. Dont keep touching her every now and then, this reduce the intensity of each touch. Keep it less and far in between. Once she feels attracted she will start doing her bit of the touching, so relax. Let her touch you, but dont follow it up by touching her. Keep it real and dont ever get excited while touching. If you work it right it wont be long before you will get signs of her closeness. She will let you know that you have the permission to touch on the other areas of her body, obviously she wont spell it out to you. Just sense the subtle signals, sometimes they wont even be subtle, she will try to lean across to you, she will find every reason to whisper something, she will find a reason to touch your hand, pat your shoulder, give you a childish tap on your cheek, get close to you while sitting or standing, well you get the idea right? When she starts doing all this you are ready to start the second level, touching the more intimate areas (i am not talking about breasts and butt here, its too early for that)

Touch her hair and feel its texture, tell her that it feels like silk or something. Less is more, dont go overboard with flowery compliments, keep it bland. Something like "your hair feels soft to touch" or "your hair is silky" is cool enough.

Touch her cheek on the pretext of removing a speck of something. The girl wouldnt care if there was a speck in the first place, as long as you do it right (do it almost unconsciously without being too involved). She will feel great.

Touch her waist more, on the pretext of guiding her through busy roads or malls. She wouldnt mind you doing that now. If she looks uncomfortable with your touch get back to the start of the article, you messed up somewhere.

Hold hands while walking through a crowded places, if done right she will like you for being protective, girls love it.

Let you hand rest on her thighs (when she is wearing something over it of course), while watching a movie or on the pretext of being tired.

Touching is the initmate exchange between a guy and a girl. It has a great capacity to generate sexual desires in the girl. Getting her charged up sexually will increase her attraction for you a hundred fold. If you are doing it right, the girl will keep wanting more. Remember the thumb rule, in your case "Less is more" so dont get too generous with the touching. When touch it will be highly intense.

How to Ask Someone to Be Your Girlfriend

Asking a girl to be your girlfriend has the same feel to it as proposing to her.
Before you ask her to be your girlfriend it is important to set up the background. It is important that you have accomplished the below before proceeding.
You have been with her for sometime and the both of you have gotten to know each other quite well.

She talks to you quite freely and does not treat you like just another person.
Given the above conditions are satisfied it is fair to assume that she might be interested in you or she might just think of your as a friend.

Unless you actually ask her to be your girlfriend you can't be too sure. Girls have an uncanny way of leading on and then suddenly rejecting you when you propose love, the usual rejection dialogue being "lets just be friends".

It is also possible that she might reject you when you ask her to be your girlfriend, but she might start looking at your differently from then on and develop emotions for you with time.

So you will need to be clear about two things, firstly how to ask her to be your girlfriend and secondly how to handle the reaction.

How to tell her you love her?

Girls love decisive guys, if you are undecided about your love for her it will show in your words. So be clear about your emotions as the first step.

A few things you should avoid doing, when you ask her to be your girlfriend are given below

Being timid doesn't work
Don't ever say something like "I think I am in love with you, would you want to be my girlfriend?" It's almost a guaranteed reject and it sounds very servile.

Dont go out on a dinner
Don't make this into a special date. If you take her out for dinner and then propose your love to her, she might reject it and then the dinner becomes awkward and embarrassing. Worse, she might just walk off on you. Avoid yourself the pain.

No indirect communications
Don't send her an email or worse an sms.

No calls
Don't call her up, it is difficult to convey your feelings over a call and you cannot judge her reaction just by her words.
All the things mentioned above are to avoided because it either communicates a timid attitude or is not direct enough.

Here is what you should do
Its best to ask her directly and out of the blue. Use the surprise element in your favor. It does not matter where you ask her, just be frank in your words.
Say something direct like "I am in love with you and I want you to be my girlfriend". That's it, short and sweet. Don't say a word beyond this and maintain your silence while looking deep into her eyes.

How to deal with her reaction

Her immediate reactions never matters. Girls are always undecided and need time to think things out. After you propose love, it would be rare for a girl to throw her arms around you and say that she loves you too.

Most often than not, she would give you a stunned look. Don't get nervous; Just maintain your silence while looking into her eyes. This posture indicates dominance on your part. The last thing you want to do is act servile while asking her to be your girlfriend.

All the below reactions are ok,
She might walk away without saying a word or might say that she wants to think about it. Just let her go, she will come back to you sooner or later with the answer.

She might slap you on the face (ouch) and walk away. Don't say anything, and definitely don't slap her back. Stand your ground till she leaves, she will come back to you later.

She might just tell you - I never thought about you this way, can we just be friends. Your reply should be - No, I can't be just friends with you because I am in love with you. Don't defend yourself, just be direct and decisive in your approach.

The bad reactions are
She laughs at you, the high pitch incredulous laugh. This would indicate she never looked at you as a boyfriend material or that she already has a boyfriend. Quite truly, there is no place for laugher in the serious business of proposing love.

She tells you she already has a boyfriend. It may or may not be true, but it would definitely indicate that she is not interested in you.

You have done your part now just wait up

Till she gives you a definite answer, never call her up or initiate communication with her. Let her come back to you. If she cares for you she definitely will.

How To Be An Alpha Male

All guys are internally alpha. There is not much to develop as there is to inhibit unconscious behavior. Certain behaviors dont work well in a relationship. Girls prefert to play the submissive role and they expect the guy to be more decisive and dominant. This is the natural way of things as it were. There are relationships where the girl seems to be more dominant than the guy, the chances of these relationships working well is a little slim. As a guy you need to understand that in your relationship you have to be the dominant and decisive force. Girls like it that way no matter how staunch they are about declaring the opposite to be true. Always remember the thumb rule, "Girls dont like making decisions", you need to be the guiding force in her life she would rather just relax in your company knowing that you will take care. Most of the best relationships work this way. Your girl would find it very attractive that you are in control, she would rather have things your way than take decisions of their own, why? because she is made of sugar and spice and everthing nice, got it?

Its your responsibility to take decisions

If you are taking her out for dinner be sure of where you want to take her. Dont ask her where she would like to go once she has settled in your car. Usually if you ask her decision, it would be common for her to answer with a "you decide". She would want to know how decisive you are, about your taste and your knowledge of the worldy things. So take some time to do research, its easy nowadays. There are lot of sites which would tell you about the best restaurants in your area or the best pubs to visit. Of course you can ask her if she is ok with the place you are taking her. Mostly she would not oppose as long as its not something she is uncomfortable with. If you are going on date you will need to fix the time when you want to pick her up. Be sure of the routes you are going to take. If a change of plan is required, then be quick about your decisions. Its okay to be wrong, but if you are indecisive it will be a turn off for her. Girls are very forgiving and they wouldnt mind if you lost your direction or if you couldnt find a parking place or stuff like that. Dont worry about the these things, just remember you need to be decisive even if your decisions go wrong.

Dont panic or get frustrated

Keeping your cool is of essence. Remember the thumb rule, "Panicking or worrying does not solve a thing" so be relaxed. Let things take their own course, everything works out for the good. If you run into a traffic jam and get late for a movie, try not get frustrated. Girls scare easily and they like to be in the company of someone who doesnot fear much. When you are stuck in a tough situation the girl would look up to you for guidance. So be ready for taking up responsibility for her safety. Dont panic no matter what happens, its a huge turn off for girls. Of course you will have her sympathies but its not the same as attraction. The alpha attitude has all to do with being relaxed. Dont let situations control your behavior. No situation is ever permanent, so it does not make sense to any situation so seriously.

Dont enter into arguements

There is a saying, "Arguement is the worst form of communication". Rightly so, no one ever wins an arguement so why involve yourself in it. Arguing with your girl about anything will only make you look insecure or defensive. Its easier to be mysterious, why do you want to reveal your point of view apart from proving that you are right. Its an ego's need to always try to defend one's opinion. You dont need to do it. Defending your opinion might win you an arguement but it will lose you a lot of attraction. Remember the goal, you want the girl find you irresistably attractive. During conversations there would come a point when she tends to disagree with your opinion of things. Dont try to defend your opinion. Remember the fact that truth needs no defence so if you believe in your opinion then you dont need to defend it. Relax and let her give her opinion, then with a casual "alright" just change topics. Let her know you are not the kinda guy who will be dragged into arguements. That will increase her respect for you tremendously. Its difficult to find people who are conscious enough not to enter into arguements. She will know you are one of them and so you will be a rare a catch for her.

Dont hesitate to walk away

Girls have an uncanny instinct to test guys. They do it out of their need to determine if your attitude is a sham or if you are really what you seem to be. Its easy for them to make out a show of confidence. Guys who try to fake it never make it with girls. You cant pretend to be confident if you have not perfected your body language. Thats why i urge you to practice till its become a part of you. Inspite of all that, girls can spring a few surprises. Be careful not to fall into the trap. You might have to endure a little pain, a little uncertainity or sometimes a little jealousy but dont ever succumb to it. Remember the thumb rule "You are the prize and she needs to get you" not the other way round. This is what you want her to believe always. If there ever arise a situation when she tries to insult you or tries to show you down, just walk away. Dont defend your point, dont argue, dont talk at all. Just walk away, you can obviously put in a bland exit statement like "i am leaving" or something like that. Dont turn back, she asked for it in the first place so its ok. It wont be long before she calls to apologize. She will learn never to treat you in a negative way and her respect for you would have raised a hundred fold. If you sit around taking insults from her then you are in for life time of suffering. She knows now that you can walk away and leave her alone anytime you decide.

Dont fall for her moods

If she pouts or sulks suddenly for no reason at all just ask her if she is okay. The most common response would be "I am ok, dont worry about it". Its best to not follow up on that. You cannot change a girl's mood by concentrating on it. If you keep asking her whats wrong, it will only instigate her to sulk more and she will get irritated with you. Why bother, is it really important for you to know why she is sulking? There could be hundred reasons, something as small as a bad hair day can make her sulk. Forget it, dont be her counsellor. If she is in a bad mood, let her be. Act as if you didnot notice and live in your world. If she has a genuine problem she will let you know even without you asking about it, and if the problem is silly she would know that you dont care for it. Most guys fall for the "bad mood" test. They get concerned and ask her whats wrong several times till she asks him to leave her alone for sometime. You dont want that happening. Remember the thumb rule "Always live in your world" dont try to enter into hers. She will love you for the space you give her. If she approaches you with a genuine problem use your ingenuity to solve it. Dont ever ask her to get out of her bad moods, she has the right to be the way she is. Girls have mood swings a lot more than guys. Its ok, they have the hormonal fluctuations to deal with. Its got nothing to do with you, so relax. Last thing she wants when she is in a bad mood is for you to get overly concerned. Your job is to be the source of strength and coolness. Stick to it.

How To Treat A Girl

Let me summarize the aspects of alpha attitude. The key is to remember that you are the dominant force, you take the decisions, you are the pillar of strength in the relationship. It is a responsibility, but its ingrained. All guys are internally alpha. Key points to remember are ..

Dont let the girl draw you into an arguement, its a no win situation for you
You take the decisions in your relationship, dont fall back on her for anything.
There would be a few things she might be good at and girls love to help out. Dont worry about asking her to help you out with something you are not good at, like "paying your bills" or something. Just make sure you dont seek or beg for help, just ask for it or demand it.

Always be dominant, girls like being submissive. This is true for all the girls.
Dont let her moods influence you. Never ask her to change her mood, it never works out that way. The best thing to do is to let her be.

Domination is not being abusive

The reason why we see a split in most of the relationships nowadays is because guys are not sure of the stand they need to take. Girls have never been great at decision making, in fact rarely does a girl ever know what she wants. Dont depend on a girl's decision because she would say something which she doesnot really believe in. She might tell you indirectly that she hates your dominant attitude, but internally thats the reason why she gets attracted to you. Thumb rule, "Do what you think is right". All around the animal kingdom you will always come across the "male domination" factor. By domination I dont mean abuse. Being abusive is a sign of insecurity. Domination is a sign of confidence, you dont force anyone but follow what you think is right. Dont abuse a girl ever, not physically or mentally. Girls are very delicate inside, they have a soft heart even they try to pretend that they are strong. Its easy to hurt a girl physically and mentally, but it will only show how insecure you are about yourself. To take on a girl is like taking on a kid, dont even think about it. Get this clear, domination is not about being abusive. Domination is all about strength of character, integrity and decisiveness. Respect and attraction go hand in hand, you cant have one without the other. If a girl respects you she will feel a lot of attraction.

How To Kiss A Girl

Kissing is a very intimate act. Even the act of just brushing her lips with yours can fire ambers inside her. When it comes to the first kiss, timing is important. Dont mess up with the timing else you will spoil everything. Dont let that scare you though, if its not fun then its not worth yet, remember that. You are out to have fun, be relaxed and enjoy the moment. Dont be afraid of failures, you mind might always instruct you to play it safe but your instinct may guide you otherwise. Follow your instinct blindly. Its the best compass you have been endowed with. So what constitutes the right timing? any moment where kissing feels right. It does not necessarily have to be at the end of the date. Neither does it have to be in a secluded place. There might be a moment when she leans towards you with a pretty smile and everything inside you wants to kiss her, go for it. Kisses cannot be planned, it is impulsive. When you feel a lot of love for her, thats the right time to kiss.

Pointers that she is kiss ready

There are a few pointers towards knowing if she is ready for the kiss. You dont have to wait for these pointers to show up. Remember the thumb rule "kiss her when you know its the right time". Take a risk, the worst that would happen is that she would not respond to your kiss or turn away. Thats ok, you dont have to be upset about her reaction. Looking out for a few pointers can increase your chances of making that perfect kiss

Notice if she is touching you a lot or if she is trying to get close to you physically
Notice if she leans towards you when you touch her hair or her cheek. If she turns away, then its not the right time to pursue a kiss

Try to lean close to her face and see her reaction. If she looks into your eyes then she is ready for the kiss, if she is looking away from you then she is not.

These pointers are time tested and cannot go wrong. But as I said you dont need to wait for these pointers. The best kisses are often the most impulsive ones. A moment of great love, a moment when she is looking really pretty, a moment when she feels really close to you, is the perfect moment to kiss. Go with your emotion as far as kissing is concerned. There is no place for pretence here. It should be natural else it loses its beauty. Its important to be relaxed, dont keep calculating whether you should kiss her or not. When the right time comes you will kiss her instinctively.

How To Kiss Her

The first kiss is usually better off being a short one. There are no hard rules of course. Keeping the first kiss short has advantages. The obvious one is that it will leave her wanting for more. There will be a fire inside her. It will show that you have a lot of self control. Whatever be the case always be the first to draw out of the kiss. Dont avoid her glance, look into her eyes after the kiss. Here are a few tips which can help you kiss better

Girls close their eyes when they know you are going to kiss. You dont need to close yours till you have made contact.

Dont go for a french kiss the first time around. No tongue action, it would come off as a little weird for your first kiss

While kissing you dont need to wrap your arms around her. Just a touch on her shoulder or waist is enough.

Keep the first kiss short, just a gentle kiss.

Ensure that the surroudings are right for the kiss so that you are not conscious of anything external. Its best to lose yourself in that moment just for a second or two.

Dont ever force a kiss, if she is turning away then stop your kiss immediately and get back

Dealing with a rejection

Its not a big deal if she turns away when you try to kiss her. Maybe she is not ready. You dont have to take it as an insult and walk away in a tirade. It will show that you are insecure and egoistic. Just relax and let her be for a while. If she feels angry with you, just tell her something like "I am sorry but you looked so pretty i had to kiss you", try to say this with genuine emotion. Chances are that she might kiss you saying that it was very sudden and she was not ready then. If she does not kiss you back even after this, then just lighten the mood up by saying something funny. Dont carry on feeling bad about it, put it behind you. She will start feeling uncomfortable if you try to show her that she has spoiled your mood, that can get awkward. Chances are that the kiss was all too sudden for her, maybe she will kiss you back sometime towards the end of the date. Dont spoil the chances of that happening by getting into a bad mood or anything. Worst of all dont try to work on her sympathy. Remember this, failure is not personal. There is a law averages at work, not every attempt will be successful. If you dont try you will never know. Rejection is a part and parcel of relationship, learn to suck it up and move on. There are millions of girls around, do you think it makes sense to sulk over one rejection?

How to follow up after the kiss

The moment after the kiss can be awkward if its followed by total silence. Say something romantic like "that was beautiful". Keep it subtle, no over-excited statements like "wow what an amazing kiss that was". This might seem like the perfect time to say "I love you". Say it if it feels right for you. The best way to say it would be without any shyness or fear. Say it in a calm voice as if you are delivering a statement without any expectation of a response. Dont expect her to say "I love you too" in return. Expectations can convey themselves in your words, to live without them is the best way to be. You have made your point, if she does not reflect your love then she is not right girl for you. Give her time though, dont push her for any answers. Remember the thumb rule, "force never works". Relax and live in your world.

Types of Flirt Signals - How To Know When A Woman Flirts?

Women are great at using their body language to convey an interest in you. When a woman flirts with you, it may not be immediately evident some flirt overtly while some flirt in a subtle manner.

When a woman flirts with you overtly these are the tell tale signals
She leans very close to you. Usually so that you can smell her scent.
She talks in a husky tone.
She look at your with deep eyes. You can feel them taking you in.
She makes provocative gestures, like priming her hair while looking at you.
She touches your skin on some pretext
She gives you an unabashed stare

These signals are so overt that you can feel her heat in your body. Don't shy away when a woman flirts with you overtly, just enjoy it. Most of the time its just purposeless, it does not mean that she wants to get intimate with you but your reaction and body language can increase her interest in you. Make the best of it.

What about subtle signs of flirting? These are more difficult to judge and its best not to jump to any conclusions. Here are usual signs of subtle flirting.
She makes eye contact with you and keep it going for a while
When she breaks the eye contact she looks down as if she is shy of you
She starts talking to her friend when ever you are around, to draw your attention
She seems fidgety in your presence and does something clumsy like dropping her pen or something

She adjusts her hair and skirt when she knows you are looking at her
Some women would require some encouragement from your side before she overtly flirts with you. Judging her subtle flirting would help you time your approach.

Tips on How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

Your girlfriend needs to feel head over heels in love with you and then she needs to feel your love for her. When these two things are in place, she feels really special.

You cannot always do the right thing at the right time in a relationship, it usually does come with experience but it's tough to be so perfect. There are times when your girlfriend would feel really special and there are times when she would feel hurt or upset.

Her relationship with you is most special to her and its usually the most important factor in her life. Make her feel happy in the relationship and she will end up feeling really special. Remember that it is a two way train, two things have to be in place.

You can make you girlfriend feel special by doing the below

Be a good listener

Girls love to talk their heart out but rarely do they talk with the purpose of getting solutions. To them talking is an end to itself. Guys usually talk with a purpose, if they have problem or story to share. For guys talking is a means to and end which would be to get a solution or convey an opinions.

When you girlfriend talks to you about anything all you need to do is listen to her. So feeling compelled to put in your opinion or suggestion. She is usually not looking for a solution to her problems and is just thinking aloud. If she wants a solution would ask you directly. Be there for her when she wants to talk things out.

Give her your time

It is possible to be bogged down by your work. There are countless relationships which have gone down the drain because the couple did not have time for each other due to their work.

Work is a part of life and it is temporary. Don't give it more importance than it deserve, it is not prudent to become work centric. When you are with your girlfriend, don't be thinking about your work. Try to take time out every now and take you girlfriend out for a cruise or a dinner, so that you can spend quality time together.

When you hold her as the most important priority in your life, she is bound to feel special.

Don't insult her judgment

Guys are prone to be more egoist than girls. Most guys would unconsciously snub their girlfriend for her opinions. Her judgments are important to her, its part of her conditioning. You need to understand this and allow her to have her opinions without imposing yours on it or insulting her for it.

Girls act like kids at times. She will feel special when you pamper her needs however silly they might seem to you.

Ask her for advice

You can do this just to make her feel special. You might have the solution to a problem, but you can ask her for advice nevertheless. Girls love giving advice. She would feel special knowing that she has part to play in guiding your life.

Most guys who think they are too perfect to ask others for help would need to work on this for a while. Ask your girlfriend for advice on simple problems and let her come up with a solution. You will be amazed at how happy she will feel when you do this.

Get Romantic

Some guys need to work on their romantic nature while some are just natural at it. Girls are die hard romantic and they do feel the need for romance in the relationship however long term it might be.

Simple things like a surprise gift can make her feel touched. She would feel really special knowing that you took time out to go shopping for her and got her a gift. Get her something you know she will love, it doesn't have to be expensive at all. Even a box of candies would do great, if she loves chocolates (most girls do).

Always stand up for her

When in a crowd always stand up for your girlfriend. Most guys take the side of their friends or family members. For your girlfriend, you support would matter more than anything else.

If she feels that you will stand up for her no matter what the circumstance may be, she would feel protected and secure in your company. This would make her feel really special.

How Do I Show My Girlfriend That I Love Her

Actions speak louder than words. It is true that there is more honesty in your actions than in what you can say.

You love your girlfriend and you want to show her how much she means to you. Words seem insufficient for this purpose. You could say "I love you" in hundred different ways but words somehow lack the depth you want to convey.

How do you show you girlfriend that your love for her has a depth to it? The first step of course is to be sincere in your love. Your actions would be congruent with your feelings always. If you feel the love inside you, it is a given that you will show the love externally in your actions.

Don't fake it because it becomes very obvious, especially to girls. Never force yourself to do anything, action should just flow out of your actual feelings not the other way round.

Here are a few things guys who truly love their girlfriend tend to do naturally, which usually end's up showing her how much he loves her. Remember that when you really love her your actions would be along these lines. You cannot fake these actions neither do you need to do something just to impress her.

Don't flirt with other girls when you have a girlfriend

When you really love a girl it is rare that you would feel like flirting with other girls. Of course you can still ogle at a particularly attractive girl, that's natural to men. Flirting or initiating contact with other girls would certain devalue her importance in your life.

If you feel like going out with other girls or spending time with them, it might show that you are not really sincere in your love towards your girlfriend. Guys who stay loyal usually end up with girls who stay loyal to them and the contrary is also true.

Learn to trust her love for you

Most guys get insecure and start wondering if their girlfriend is really in love with them or if she is attracted to other guys.

If you cant trust your girlfriend it could mean two things

You are insecure within yourself and tend to project things negatively.

Your girlfriend is actually not behaving in a manner which invokes trust

If it's the former is case, you need to work on yourself but if the latter is the case, then you need to give your relationship some hard thoughts. You cannot be with a girl who acts in a manner which invokes feelings of anger inside you.
If you tend to think negatively most of the time, just learn to look at things realistically. Be practical and evaluate the situation without letting your emotions blur your logic. Be sure you have your facts right before you accuse her of anything.

There is nothing which can hurt a girl more than a false accusation of carrying on with someone. Base you trust on her actions. If she acts in a manner which show that she loves you, then it has to be the case.

Occasionally, do something for her which you personally may not like

At times just do something which she likes which you may not have a preference for. For example, if she feels like watching a chick flick you could take her out and watch it with her even if it bores the hell out of you. She will know that you are doing this only for her.

Remember the word occasionally. You don't have to do anything which you don't feel like doing just to please her, that would be a bit on the servile side. Girls do like men who are decisive and are usually quite happy to just go along.

Surprise Her

There is nothing like surprises that can get your girl to feel how much you love her. When you plan a surprise for her, it shows that you took the time to think and do something just for her.

It does not have to be anything extravagant or expensive. A few things you could do are

Buy her something which she always wanted. Most girls love window shopping and when you are with them would tell you something she would love to have. Just buy it for her as a surprise.

Take her out on a fun date out of the blue. It could be something as simple as a going for a long cruise and sitting by the sunset.

Do something out of the ordinary, like cook her a meal by reading a recipe booklet. She would appreciate the gesture even if the cooking turns out bad.

You can write her a romantic poetry and leave it by her door step. Call her and ask her to pick it up. It sounds goofy but girls do love these gestures. Just don't keep doing the same things often, it loses the charm.

What you should not do to show her that you love her

There are the things you should try not to do in a attempt to show your love for her. When you behave this way you will usually come across as needy, girls don't like that.

Keep calling her every 10 minutes to tell her how much you miss her

Sending romantic SMS forwards or email forwards on frequent basis.

Buying her gifts every now and then.

Express your love for her every time you are with her. Words can tend to go boring.

Try to impress her in any way by silly gestures and actions.

The thumb rule to follow is less is more, don't over do anything. Don't make her think that you are obsessed with her, that's a big negative. Be genuine but be controlled in your actions.

How Do I Know If My Girlfriend is Right for Me?

Most of these questions usually arise in guys who are in the age group of 15-25 or in some cases even in a 30 year old.

The mind is constantly insecure and its asking questions like

Is my girlfriend right for me?
Am I feeling complete when I am with her?
Is my girlfriend really in love with me?
Do I deserve a better girlfriend, am I underplaying myself?
These questions usually point to the fact that you are seeking something which is yet unfulfilled. The very fact that these questions arise in your mind prove that there is something lacking in the relationship. The reasons for feeling this lack are as below
Your girlfriend does not seem to show the kind of love you want from her (usually this is the main reason)
Your girlfriend is not spending a lot of time with you
Your girlfriend seems to lack interest in you and seems too busy with other things
You don't feel close to her emotionally, in other words she is not really there for you when you are feeling down and upset
She is not very committed to the relationship and shies away from the any talk relating to long term (like marriage or live in)
She seems to prefer spending time with her friends and family rather than with you

The list goes on, but the bottom line always is that you feel a sense of lack in the relationship. You may not even be able to pin point the exact reason why you feel this lack, but you know its there.

Is your girlfriend in love with you?

This is the only criteria to know if she is right for you. If your girlfriend is not in love with you or if she is undecided, then it would point to a lack of connection between the two of you.

If you don't meet up with her expectations, she would lose out on her love for you. You cannot consciously meet anyone's expectations and neither can you expect the same for the other person. It happens naturally, thats what connection is all about. Some couples just click because they just fit into each other perfectly.

So if your girlfriend is not in love with you, she is not to blame and neither are you. It just indicates a lack of connection between the two of you. You can give your relationship some time, but if it does not work out then you just need to move on without adding further pain to yourself.

You should be in love with your girlfriend

If you feel a lack of love towards your girlfriend, you have to accept the reality and know that she is not right for you.

You don't need to beat yourself up for not feeling the same level of love for your girlfriend as you imagine you should. Lack of love in a relationship is usually due to lack of connection. You cannot make it happen, it just happens naturally.

You cannot help if you don't feel that passion and love for your girlfriend. They are signals indicating that there is a lack somewhere in the relationship. You cannot fill this lack by trying to change yourself, that does not work.

Come to terms with the reality. Acceptance of things as they are is the best way to move forward and end the confusion.

Should I work on the relationship

It depends on what you are going through. If it is just a temporary lull which has entered into your relationship, there might be some external factors which might be causing it, such as

Work related issues (exam stress and job stress can have an impact on your relationship) Lack of communication
The need for some space (happens in long term relationships)
Family issues or other personal problems

Your girlfriend might just be stressed out because of a lot things temporarily. You can just work at giving her some space and keep yourself busy with other things. If she continues her behavior of being distant, you need have a talk with her and find out the reality.

It does not help to work on relationship which are as good as over. The moment you lose out on love it is over, it does not matter whether its you or your girlfriend. You cannot control the person's mind or emotions, so accept things as they are without making it too personal.

Don't worry about a break off

Break offs happens in several relationships. It is better to end something which is getting toxic than to persist with it. Just don't make it personal because it is not. You cannot control the way you feel or the way the other person feels.




Most people take break offs too personally. Whatever happened, you are not to blame. You were being yourself and the person is doing the same, there was just a lack of connection between you so it was never meant to be anyway.