Each one of us has certain quirks or unconscious habits relating to our body language. These habits have been inculcated without our conscious knowledge and hence we are not even aware of it. Some of these habits are so destructive to our overall personality that it is best to get rid of them. It will take a conscious effort on your part to accomplish this. It might take a week or more to get a habit replaced. Be patient and keep practicing consciously. Here is a list of negative body language traits, try to figure out which of these behaviors is present in you.
The drooping shoulders walk
The signal which this body language sends out is that you are sluggish. It generates a perception of laziness and lethargy. Though you may not even feel lazy or sluggish inside, the body langauge which you wear makes people percieve that of you. The right body language would be to lift your shoulder so that your arms are parallel to each other, your chesh is slightly bloated up and it feels like your head is at a 90 degree to your shoulders. This is a killer body laugauge and it oozes of confidence. It will take time to get this practiced so that it because a habit with you. A week of conscious practice will get you the results.
The jerky and hasty movements
If you have a hasty walk, people percieve you to be an impatient and fidgety person. Some people have a jerky movement, where there body jerks around while walking. This again sends out signals of weirdness or ecentricity. I am sure this body langauge is very natural to you but the fact is that it sends out negative signals. It is important to replace it with a seduction body language of "walking in the pool". Just imagine that you are wading through water in your pool. The movement is slow and gracious. There is no sense of urgency but a calm composure which seems to say that time is in your control. Have you seen the way Brad Pitt or George Clooney walk? Its very relaxed, as if they are wading through water. There are no jerky or hasty movements. I agree that this is a difficult habit to develop but the returns are so rich that its worth the effort. You will amazed at the way people percieve you once you start walking this way.
The twitching eye movement
Your eyes play a very important role in the art of seduction. If you look at guys who are extremely successful with girls, you will notice that they have a calm gaze, their eyes wouldnt twitch at all. If you are in the habit of twitching your eyes while talking, closing and opening you eyes in hasty movements, making quick eye movements as if you are in danger all the time, then its time to give it your conscious attention and change it. Relax your eye muscles. You can even let your eye lids droop slightly. Practice keeping a steady stare without much movement. Avoid looking around you continously, try to focus on just what is ahead of you. When you relax your eyes you will be conscious of their movement and this will stop the twitching habit. Takes practice, but I cannot emphasize the importance of developing this particular body language enough. It is vital that you get this habit perfected.
Playing with your hands
If you are in the habit of playing with your hands while sitting idle, talking, walking or standing then you are send signals or nervousness. Thats how people percieve it. This is a very common habit but its very detrimental to your body language. Avoid it like plague. Be conscious of your hand movements, the best way to accomplish is this is to relax your fingers. Leave your limp whenever you are sitting idly or talking. While standing you can either keep your hands in your pocket or better yet twidle your thumbs into your belt loops but the best thing to do is to leave your hands limp while standing, this is a sign of extreme confidence.
Hurried articulation
If you talk fast while animating your speech with frantic actions with your hands and eyes then you are sending out signals of insecurity, impatience and defensiveness. People percieve you as some who feels the need to impress due to his insecurity in himself. If you observe your facial movements, when you talk fast with facial animation, it seems very contorted as you are struggling. The thumb rule is to relax. Relax you mouth while talking, its a powerful exercise and sends out signals of intense confidence. Relax your face and ensure that there is no animation like bulging eyes, flared up nose or anything of that sort. Let you mouth do the talking, dont involve your hands. When a speaker talks without using his hand, to animate his points, he presents a picture of calm confidence without the need to defend or impress. A very powerful communication technique and a strong alpha body language.
Scratching your face or hair
Most people unconsciously scratch their face or hair while standing, sitting or talking. People around you will percieve it as restlessness. It is very detrimental to your personality. It is also very distracting to the other person when you scratch your face or hair while talking. Some people play with nose, some with their ears, some rub their neck, some scratch their hair, some play with their lower lip or chin, all of these are unconscious behavior and convey a form of restlessness or unease. Be relaxed and leave your hands limp. You dont need to play with anything just keep your attention focus on yourself. While listening just pay attention to what is being said while keeping a relaxed pose. There is no need to think when the other person is talking, just focus your attention. You will realize that conscious behavior is always relaxed, unconscious behavior is restless. Be more conscious of your body and mind, this will help you relax
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