Deal With A Contentious Girlfriend's Criticisms

A practical scenario where Jane is nagging Jack is given below. Let's look at the wrong and the right reactions.




Wrong way:


Jane: I am just tired of your habit of sleeping around like a lazy pig. What don't work some part time jobs to make more money?
Jack: Yeah I am sorry, I just feel lazy at times. I know its not right of me.
Jane: And look at your room, it's so untidy. I want it looking neat the next time I come around.
Jack: Yeah I will take care of that




Right way:


Jane: I am just tired of your habit of sleeping around like a lazy pig. What don't work some part time jobs to make more money?
Jack: That's the way I am and I will look for a job when I need the money. What I do will always be my decision. I don't want such talk again, am I clear?
Jane: How the hell can you talk to me like that
Jack: I don't appreciate your tone either




Mind you, the right way is not always the easy way. You will have to deal with the consequences. Girls can have their way through emotional outbursts. She will try it on you. Her reaction can be one the below

1. She become cold towards you
2. She starts crying
3. She tells you she is leaving you forever




The best reaction to her emotional outburst is to be detached. If you react to it by apologizing it will reinforce his behavior on her part. Don't bother about any drama, just let it ride. It's easier said than done, but the rewards are rich. When she sees that you are in the least bothered, she will never try it again with you.